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Hi guys, I haven't been on here long but already Ive had so much ideas and help. But last night Glover was horrible (for my boyfriend), Glover didn't go to sleep until midnight where as he usually goes at 930.
Im worried that the dog is putting a strain on our relationship instead of bringing us togeather. Michael is a grumpy old boot lol and he can't stand the whinging, although Glover hasn't done that in ages.
Also I feel like I never see Michael and then when I do spend time with him I feel guilty leaving Glover.

We don't let Glover roam around the house, he has his own place although he doesn't want to stay there. He will not stay inside in the crate unless its bed time either. There goes the idea bringing him into the living room at night when we are watching tv.

ohh Im just so frustrated, I feel so guilty all the time and I really don't want to give Glover up, but it seems as if Ive made a mistake by getting him.
 

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Glovercharlie,

Hi! Please don't give up and although it's easy to say "don't feel guilty", keep in mind, that you are dealing with a dog, not a human. I started feeling guilty every time I didn't give Brie her way. Then one evening my husband, Ron, took her upstairs with him, to give me a break. She pushed every boundry you could think of and the whining and crying nearly broke my heart, but after about 20 minutes, I peeked in and there was Brie, curled up in her crate, right next to Ron while he was on the computer. When it was time for her walk they came downstairs and she walked right beside him with her tail wagging and out they went. I learned that I had to let Brie know that I was the boss and the sooner she learned that, the happier we would all be. Don't get me wrong, I still get the "guilts", but when I do I just tell myself that Brie has to have rules and structure if we are going to be a happy family. It's definitely not easy at the start, but if you keep at it, things will get easier and the 3 of you will be happy. Hope this helps.
 

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I agree with Lora. Don't give up, you will all be happy in the end.
 

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Listen to Laura, she had, and still has a bit of a hard time with a very insecure pup. However, a lot of patience and showing them assertively and lovingly who the boss is, help a lot....
Beagle pups are very demanding (all pups are, but with beagles its different), they push you to the limit, but you have to show them that you put the boundries.

It will be okay. Maybe Michael can help and that way you will both be doing the raising and educating, and so will be growing closer... :thumbup:
 

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wow, I remember those days. Please know that I too was there, and it was not that long ago. I got Marley in July and within 1 weeks I was telling people that I couldn't do it, I made the wrong decision, and he was going back. I was going to put up fliers to try to sell him and if that didn't work, was going to give him to a rescue. I posted so many pleas for help here that I felt guilty. Everyone was talking about how much they loved their pups and I was always saying how difficult mine was.

Not very much later, here I am in love with a little guy that I could never give up. It will get easier, and easier, and then you will be enjoying him!! You won't forget the tough days, oh no, but the good ones will make you smile!

Good luck. What trouble are you having, how old is he?
 

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ditto to what Marley's mommy just said /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif
When we got Snoopy we thought we'd made a good breed choice as we'd read how gentle they are even with young kids etc...and BOY we had a very steep learning curve with him. The amount of times we said "we can't do this anymore", lets rehome him etc.. ( and this ashamedly to admit is coming from a VET- how awful did I feel even contemplating such a thing considering I'd seen so many unwanted dogs, having to do the weekly pound run for our vet clinic for years) We even got to the point of putting a flyer up once after another stressy few days (most of that was from having 3 very young children - Snoopy was just the extra bit of straw on the camels back unfortunately). But even that night I made hubby go and take it down again as he was looking so cute and sweet that evening etc.
Then he started getting out of our fence and roaming through the neigbours yards, plus the neighbours complained about his barking. He's 10 months old now and beginning to settle a little and there's no way we could ever part with him now. Yes it did take a new $5000 fence and citronella collar to keep him in and the neighbours happy /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek.gif
Puppies are like kids - they DO put a strain on the relationship- sleep debt and all their little naughty antics and tantrums etc... but the memories they create are SOOOOOOOOOOOOO worth it /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif Hang in there!!! at least they grow up faster than human kiddies and soon you'll have a lovely mature affectionate companion. I couldn't imagine walks without my little Snoopy anymore. Anyway I ramble....give him time /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

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Oh my, how I can relate. Jersey was a handful when she was a puppy. I hadn't had a puppy in 13 years and had forgotten just how hard it was to raise one! She was a holy terror and chewed everything. She was always getting into mischief. Most of all though, she had (and still has) a pretty serious case of separation anxiety. We thought we were going to have to return her to the rescue because of the complaints we kept getting at the apartment about her. We stuck it out though and found a great doggy day care to take her to. It was stressful for a while but now I have this incredibly awesome dog that I wouldn't trade for anything in the world. Obedience classes helped Jersey learn who was the boss, but in a very positive way. We saw the biggest change in her behavior when we started her training. If you haven't started that yet, I highly suggest it. Our trainer helped with issues besides the obedience stuff as well. She was a great resource for us at that time.

I know it's hard right now, but a little hard work now will pay off for years to come. Please don't give up!
 

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I agree with everything that everone has said. Caesar was exhausting! There were times when we thought we couldn't do it anymore but we couldn't give him up. And he did calm down. Why don't you and your boyfriend walk Glover together? That way you're spending quality time with both of them. Then after the walk Glover should be tired and hopefully he can have a nap or play quietly. Walks are great! And don't feel sorry for him. I know it's hard to do but they know what you're feeling and if he senses that in you he'll walk all over you and make it that much harder. Good Luck.
 
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I know exactly what you are going through. Heck, we're going through it now with Chase. He's a little terror but at the same time he's a joy. I understand that it's going to be rough at first only because his a pup he's testing his limits. It'll get better, don't give up on your pup hun. In time it'll be so much better.
 

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Don't give up! Like everyone says, its not easy!

They are just like little kids and are gonna push your buttons and try to be the dominant one, but you have to be that.

Every once in a while when I get overwhelmed I'll watch an episode of "Dog Whiperer" and he sort of puts things into perspective. Sort of gives you idea on how to handle certain situations...

Good luck and keep us posted on how things are going!
 

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I know exactly what your going through... im doing the same thing right now.. Diesel is 7 weeks and its hard to leave him at home at such a young age.. my boyfriend is also very frustrated because we never go out anymore. so i usually try to get him to play with diesel. after a few min of them playing my boyfriend warms right up and he is not so frustrated... he still does get a bit upset sometimes but i just have to remind him that everything will work out.
 

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Remember beagles were hunters first and have the "member of a pack" thing in their little mind. So when you got him you made him a member of your pack. With the "pushing of the buttons" he is challenging your right to call youself the leader of that pack(dog thing)and if you are the leader can you handle the job. After you show him that you are not giving an inch he will settle down. This is not to say he "stops" all his getting into trouble ! He is a beagle and that's his job. Getting into so kind of mischief. And believe me when I tell you that years from now after reading all the puppy stories on this forum. You will wish your little 4 legged buddy was a puppy again and only remember the good times that cover those hard times. Hang in there! :thumbup: :thumbup: Outcome is well worth it !! :happyhappy:
 

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When Shiloh was a puppy, and we were dealing with the chewing, and not getting housebroken, etc., I met a lady who had a beagle pup only a couple of months older. She said, "It's a good thing beagle puppies are so cute, else nobody would keep them!" They can be a trial; I'm glad to read that I wasn't the only new beagle owner sure I'd made a terrible mistake!! But please hang in there with your little guy--when he settles down you'll be so glad you did!! You could try obedience lessons if he's not too young for that. And Caesar's Mom had a good suggestion about you and boyfriend spending time together by walking Charlie together--and as often as you can. A tired beagle is a good beagle!! Good luck--pretty soon he'll have you wrapped around his little paw and you'll wonder how you could have even thought of giving him up! /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif
 

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Quote: Good luck--pretty soon he'll have you wrapped around his little paw and you'll wonder how you could have even thought of giving him up!
Amen to that!! :thumbup: :thumbup:
 

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like the others, I just wanted to say - I remember those days! having a puppy can be a lot tougher than you think.
One thing I might suggest is that you could try tying Glover to you on an evening - that way he can be in the same room as you and your boyfriend when you watch tv, but you can easily keep an eye on him without having to crate him. Apart from the fact that he'll like being with you both, one thing that I remember really helped me after what felt like a whole day of biting, chewing and peeing was watching her sleep on my knee - it was so peaceful and she really was just ridiculously cute!
Good luck - it will get better!
 

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OMG... I totally know how you feel.

DO NOT GIVE UP....you will lose the best thing in your life...why do I say this, b/c we have totally been there.

We got Snoopy from a shelter, he was abused, beaten, horrible looking, but we took him in

He had horrible seperation anxiety, we used Comfort Zone all the time, we got calls on our phone when we went to dinner that our dog was barking b/c of the anxiety.....he eventually got over it..he had to!!

Why? B/c my now FI wanted to give him back to the shelter and there was no way in hell I was going to do that to him..how could i? We almost broke up b/c of Snoopy...There was NO WAY I would do that to a dog...never....so I left one day with Snoopy said to now FI that I would not give up the dog and I would leave...My bags were packed!!

Today......My FI LOVES Snoopy....adores him, he is the 'baby'...you just have to hold on, let them grow...he will be the best dog ever.

You guys just have to get through it together...giving the dog up is not the answer, it is not right..you have no idea how good this dog will be in a year...hang in there..

Manda, snoops and marbles
 

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aww guys thank you for all your kind words!

no I won't give up, I also had a talk with hubby and he had no intentions of giving him up..lol Here I was thinking that he hated the dog lol.

anyway, we do occasionaly go for walks with Glover togeather but as I work shifts it is sometimes up to M to walk Charlie and take care of him during the time Im at work in the afternoon. wich is fine! although we did go togeather last night and aparently Glover walks differently with M, he runs ahead of him but when with me he walks either beside me or behind me... lol

anyway thank you so much! they where the words I needed!

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Hi GloverCharlie

I Just wanted to let you know I know exactly where you are coming from!!!

My beagle Daisy (I am a friend of Erin&Andrew's, she can tell you how true this is!!) is nick named the evil beagle because of how naughty and challenging she is.

I have three dogs and she is by far the most difficult, stubborn and strong willed dog I have ever met!!

I can't stress how important training is with a stubborn beag, let me know if you would like the name of a great dog obedience club in Brissy /forums/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif
 
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