The hardest thing I've ever had to do

Faiers · 01-29-2010, 08:50 PM

It's amazing how life can change instantly and sadly that is what has happened to us. My elderly parents who live in Australia have taken very ill - my mum with cancer and undergoing chemo and slap bang in the middle of this my dad has had a stroke. So, my parents need me and of course, I am in another country. The hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life is make the decision to give up my precious Penny and Tuppence so that I can take care of my parents (I am their only child).

Unfortunately, we had to split our girls - we had plenty of offers for one or the other, but not (a sensible offer) for both together. Penny went the day before yesterday and I have cried now for two days - I miss her so much. Penny helped to fill an empty space in my heart when our only child left home - I was a classic empty nester. However, I can take heart that Penny is helping to heal another sad heart. She has gone to a family who within a short space of time lost both their Father and their family dog (of 14 years) and had a big hole to fill in their lives - Penny has another purpose now because their son needs her to love and to be loved by her. It was such a bitter sweet moment when I saw the love in this young teenage boy's eyes the minute he saw Penny - I knew they were the perfect match.

Tuppence is going this afternoon to a lovely family whose young daughter absolutely adores Tuppence. Their family dog of many years passed away on Christmas Day. Again, another perfect match.

I cannot tell you how sad it feels and the immense guilt that goes with parting with my girls. I have to just keep telling myself that they are loved and have wonderful new lives ahead of them.

I know it will take a while for the sadness to go away. At the moment I feel like a blubbering idiot. I have loved sharing my Penny Beagle stories with you and reading your stories about your beautiful Beagle Babies. So, please give your beautiful hounds a big hug from me.

kathy5 · 01-29-2010, 08:56 PM

I will keep you & your parents in my thoughts HUG

**RosCole** · 01-30-2010, 07:35 AM

I read this through tears, I am so sorry to hear of your situation.
Prayers and positive thoughts for you, your parents, and Penny & Tuppence.

Erin · 01-30-2010, 08:58 AM

I can't imagine having to give up our two babies, so I can only imagine what you're going through on top of your parents situation. I pray for a quick recovery for your family and that Penny and Tuppence will settle in with their new families. It sounds like they will be the perfect medicine for the homes that they've gone too.

Maybe their new families can keep us all posted here?

kamicowzi · 01-30-2010, 07:23 PM

=(...I wish you the best and I hope everything works out for your parents, you, your doggies, and the families they went to. Beagles have huge hearts and so do you.

**Ashley Hellen** · 01-30-2010, 08:39 PM

I am so sorry you ended up having to give up your girls with no other way out.

Been there done that, just take comfort in the fact you have done the best for them in bad circumstances. My marriage breakup cost me my dogs and I still miss them and wish there had been another way. I cant look at photos anymore and I still have their tags. I just pray they are happy in their new homes but if I ever had the ooportunity to have them back I would in a heartbeat.

I hope you get another dog later on when you are able with your life. Please take care of you you sound like an amazing caring person.

DLuethje · 02-01-2010, 12:07 PM

My prayers and thoughts are with you, your parents and the girls. Both girls have a new home that sounds loving. Bless you

sheiser · 02-01-2010, 06:18 PM

Had to read this twice, wasn't quite up to replying the first time...not so good at choked up tear typing. I give you all the credit in the world for making what had to be one of the most difficult decisions. What a wonderful mom you have been to Penny and Tuppence, even more so now for putting so much into finding loving homes with families that sound like they really need some puppy love.

My thoughts are with you, your parents, and Penny and Tuppence as you all take the next steps down the road ahead.

cobismom · 02-01-2010, 08:00 PM

Big beagle tears and lots of cold nose hugs to you. My heart is aching for you....I've been the parent route, and it's not easy being the oldest and only. But to have to give up your best friends has got to make it even harder. You have my prayers, my heart, my thoughts, and many long distance hugs.

The good thing is of course, you found your girls wonderful loving homes. In that you can take good feelings....I'm so sorry.

Angel4me · 02-02-2010, 07:18 AM

This is a very sad situation.my Prayers are with You.You show unconditional Love for You'r Parent's &Pets. too find good Homes for the 2 must help some with You'r Pain.

01-29-2010, 08:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
Faiers Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: New Zealand Posts: 215	The hardest thing I've ever had to do It's amazing how life can change instantly and sadly that is what has happened to us. My elderly parents who live in Australia have taken very ill - my mum with cancer and undergoing chemo and slap bang in the middle of this my dad has had a stroke. So, my parents need me and of course, I am in another country. The hardest thing I have ever had to do in my life is make the decision to give up my precious Penny and Tuppence so that I can take care of my parents (I am their only child). Unfortunately, we had to split our girls - we had plenty of offers for one or the other, but not (a sensible offer) for both together. Penny went the day before yesterday and I have cried now for two days - I miss her so much. Penny helped to fill an empty space in my heart when our only child left home - I was a classic empty nester. However, I can take heart that Penny is helping to heal another sad heart. She has gone to a family who within a short space of time lost both their Father and their family dog (of 14 years) and had a big hole to fill in their lives - Penny has another purpose now because their son needs her to love and to be loved by her. It was such a bitter sweet moment when I saw the love in this young teenage boy's eyes the minute he saw Penny - I knew they were the perfect match. Tuppence is going this afternoon to a lovely family whose young daughter absolutely adores Tuppence. Their family dog of many years passed away on Christmas Day. Again, another perfect match. I cannot tell you how sad it feels and the immense guilt that goes with parting with my girls. I have to just keep telling myself that they are loved and have wonderful new lives ahead of them. I know it will take a while for the sadness to go away. At the moment I feel like a blubbering idiot. I have loved sharing my Penny Beagle stories with you and reading your stories about your beautiful Beagle Babies. So, please give your beautiful hounds a big hug from me. __________________ Mum to Penny (Beagle) and Tuppence (Corgi) -New Zealand

01-29-2010, 08:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
kathy5 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Bristol NH Posts: 487	I will keep you & your parents in my thoughts HUG __________________ kathy's facebook page

01-30-2010, 07:35 AM	#3 (permalink)
RosCole Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Upstate New York Posts: 1,369	I read this through tears, I am so sorry to hear of your situation. Prayers and positive thoughts for you, your parents, and Penny & Tuppence. __________________ All you really need is love, but a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt. Lucy Van Pelt Peanuts

01-30-2010, 08:58 AM	#4 (permalink)
Erin Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Crestview, FL Posts: 863	I can't imagine having to give up our two babies, so I can only imagine what you're going through on top of your parents situation. I pray for a quick recovery for your family and that Penny and Tuppence will settle in with their new families. It sounds like they will be the perfect medicine for the homes that they've gone too. Maybe their new families can keep us all posted here? __________________ †Erin† The Family: Jason(hubby), Daisy & Rocky (furkids)

01-30-2010, 08:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
Ashley Hellen Super Moderator Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Wolverhampton, UK Posts: 1,827	I am so sorry you ended up having to give up your girls with no other way out. Been there done that, just take comfort in the fact you have done the best for them in bad circumstances. My marriage breakup cost me my dogs and I still miss them and wish there had been another way. I cant look at photos anymore and I still have their tags. I just pray they are happy in their new homes but if I ever had the ooportunity to have them back I would in a heartbeat. I hope you get another dog later on when you are able with your life. Please take care of you you sound like an amazing caring person. __________________ Ashley owned by Milo-Cocker Spaniel but am a lifetime beagle devotee.... Aroooo.....................

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01-30-2010, 07:23 PM	#5 (permalink)
kamicowzi Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 10	=(...I wish you the best and I hope everything works out for your parents, you, your doggies, and the families they went to. Beagles have huge hearts and so do you.

02-01-2010, 12:07 PM	#7 (permalink)
DLuethje Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Maryland Posts: 28	My prayers and thoughts are with you, your parents and the girls. Both girls have a new home that sounds loving. Bless you

02-01-2010, 06:18 PM	#8 (permalink)
sheiser Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: WI Posts: 118	Had to read this twice, wasn't quite up to replying the first time...not so good at choked up tear typing. I give you all the credit in the world for making what had to be one of the most difficult decisions. What a wonderful mom you have been to Penny and Tuppence, even more so now for putting so much into finding loving homes with families that sound like they really need some puppy love. My thoughts are with you, your parents, and Penny and Tuppence as you all take the next steps down the road ahead. __________________ Sara's happiness = Johnny (handsome hubby) + Bella (feisty feline) + Gracie Jones (playful pooch) + a whole heap of love and laughter!

02-01-2010, 08:00 PM	#9 (permalink)
cobismom Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: South Dakota Posts: 687	Big beagle tears and lots of cold nose hugs to you. My heart is aching for you....I've been the parent route, and it's not easy being the oldest and only. But to have to give up your best friends has got to make it even harder. You have my prayers, my heart, my thoughts, and many long distance hugs. The good thing is of course, you found your girls wonderful loving homes. In that you can take good feelings....I'm so sorry. __________________ Cathy J Casie and Cobi's mom

02-02-2010, 07:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
Angel4me Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 10	This is a very sad situation.my Prayers are with You.You show unconditional Love for You'r Parent's &Pets. too find good Homes for the 2 must help some with You'r Pain.